friend sex delima.

Right, so today was filled with indescribable event.
But ill manage to describe them for you.
All right lets begin with one of my close friends.
A boy, of coarse whose name i shall not say. But for the sake of having a name i shall call him...??
Sal.
Alright, well me and Sal are very close and have been for a while now, excet for the past few months we just kinda of sepreated because, well i think he has emotional stability probelms and i just dont think i know how or what do.
Anyways so he is really needy and its ridiculous and extremly bossy may i add.
As if im his girlfriend!, which i am not!
But he expects me to jump everytime he says jump. Which is not happening,
expecially now that its getting worse and he calls me every single day aboit 3 times and i wont answer because something about him just really really annoys me.
wow.
venting.
whoooa...breather.
1,2,3.
ok i just had to get that out i guess it had been boiling up.
Anyways back to the topic.
Me and my friend Sal and a bunch of other friends went out for my bestfriends birthday so....in a way we recindled our friendship that had been beyond repair for the night.
it was all right he yelled at me and was moody and we joked and he got kinda physical.
but in a playful demenor of coarse, except for the fact he is about 6'5 and im only 5'3 ish.sooo it kinda hurt ruff housing you know??
but anyways, geeze i keep going off on tangents.
ANYWAYS!!....later that night he AIMS me..and tells me..that he loves me soo much and im his bestfriend and blah blah blah im the only one he truly truly trust...

(here comes the topping on the cake)




sooo he is 18 now and  he is ready...

(im like, ready for what?)
and he continues that he is ready...ready to take the next step in his life...and have sex.

well im thinking ok...that great!!!...i guess??
he continues about how much he loves and trust me then tell me he wants me to be his first sexual encounter!!



WTF!!! PAUSE, OKAY I WAS JUST REALLY TAKEN ABACK
pardon me if that is rude. but i didnt know what the hell else to say.

sooo...i kinda just made a joke of it like i always tend to do when something uncomfortable pops out of the pushes.
but he was serious he wanted to have sex with me.
because we were good friends and he says i can trust him.
soooo i told him no. bad idea..
then he beggs why blah blah blah and goes on telling me how nothing between us would be different..blah blah
sooo my finally answer was no..

soo now he calls me and texts me..all the time still and its awkward you know..
for me at least.
is that wrong, of me?? like wth am i supposed to do?

Fleur on
Sal seems like he’s possessive, with all the texting and calling. He also seems manipulative, with all the yelling and rough housing and demands. Him saying he ‘loves you’ and is ready for the next step of sex is a little off base because you two aren’t even in a relationship, which I know is not a requisite for sex. But, if someone is in love, it’s more than likely that they want to be with you, date you, have a relationship with you, get to know you, all that good stuff. “I love you, let’s have sex” is teenage boy code for “I want to do you, but don’t think you’ll bed me without some sense of attachment, so love it is.” And an 18 y/o is a teenager. Fully knowing that is a good thing, then you decide “Do I want to have sex with him because I want to have sex with him,” because sex doesn’t need/require love, just maturity and honesty; or decide “Do you want to have sex because you think he loves you?” that’s a set up for disappointment.

I think you need to take into consideration the fact that sex DOES, and ALWAYS WILL change things. Do you want to tie yourself to a possessive and manipulative man? Having sex with someone who is possessive and manipulative will justify his actions, he’ll think it is his position to call you, know where you, make demands, etc, etc. Do you want that hassle? My motto: if you want a sex-based relationship, at least make it a hassle free and enjoyable relationship. Why complicate something so complicated already.
ohshae
Female - 108 years old
MURRIETA, CA
United States
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